Episodes

September 20, 2021

The Favor

This episode came about as we had a guest that was so hateful and wrongly accused Matt of "manipulation" because he likes to present people with favors. Wanting to clear things up from that conversation, Fawn wanted to make sure Matt explained (before he was so rudely cut off), one of the many ways to really connect with people.   This one act is something that you can do, to kindly, respectfully, and compassionately relate to people. And it's a simple thing; one that is really important for everyone to know about. This is also to correct a wrong that was done to Matt (referring to a rude guest we had). We're talking about a favor.  Do you know what "favor" actually means? the etymology, the origin, the Latin which is spelled FAVERE.   The etymology, the background, the root of favor originally means: show kindness. Isn't that beautiful?

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September 13, 2021

Apologia

We begin with Socrates and the history and meaning of "APOLOGIA". How we should defend what we believe is true. We use Socrates as an example of the result of what happens when we go against the status quo. How can we stay safe and sane?And when mistakes happen, how do we apologize?  How should we apologize? When is it ok not to apologize?  We discuss the reasons why we fight and how we can reach a loving point.

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September 06, 2021

The Bonsai Tree - On Nature and How We Grow

Bonsai trees are intended to bring the core aspects of nature: balance harmony, and simplicity. It's said that when we consider the natural flow of the environment, these three characteristics, should anything occur to disrupt it (nature) will always restore itself. There is always a natural harmonic balance to things. In looking at the trees and their scale, on so many levels we can realize how much bigger the trees are than manmade structures. And if you look at it, a tree (nature), is way, way, more massive than anything that we make. The act of caring for bonsai trees is nurturing in it's profound sense. And when giving from the heart, the giver benefits as much as the receiver. By bonding through nature, the Bonzai plant's meaning is enriched and it becomes our teacher. I thought that was beautiful. And it calls to friendship too; all relationships, by bonding, by bonds, things are enriched and it's a teaching moment. We teach each other. The more we provide and nurture for one, the other also reciprocates, not always in the sense that we expect, but it is going back to that circle. When you care, you are cared for. What you seek is seeking you.

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August 30, 2021

Ego Amo Te

The English word ego is the Latin word for, “I”.  Literally translated, ego means "I". If you were to write, "I love you" in Latin, you would write "ego amo te"   It's interesting how people feel  the need of having that triumph over you. Why does that happen? It probably comes from some trauma where the person did not feel as important. So they have to really hold up that part of themselves to say, “I am important.” Perhaps what we need is rituals in our society where when you do something (you accomplish something) that you have a party about it, like a ceremonial "yay. I did it!”

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August 23, 2021

Revolution vs Evolution and the Art of a Coherent Community During Turbulent Times

This episode we focus onRevolution vs Evolution and the Art of A Coherent Community During Turbulent Times and we begin with the etymology of revolution: to turn; to roll back. The definition is really revolt, which originally meant to renounce allegiance, which is really interesting since we're always talking about friendship and community and family; the family that we create, but to renounce allegiance that's revolution. Revolution is also a change in paradigm. Evolution is an opening of what was a rolled up and opening of what was rolled up. We discuss the  cause of fear and division. Fawn gives the example of Santa Monica and how the utopia bubble was getting thin, when things became more (here's the four letter word - "busy"), where people began becoming more and more busy, didn't play as often, didn't have happy hour meals as often and began to get quiet in conversation. The family began to dwindle. The free, wild, uncontrollable laughter  didn't happen as much. Things felt more and more serious and soon began that new normal.   So what's the lesson here and this tiny bit of time in this tiny bit of community is the basis for our conversation today? How does revolution ignite in a peaceful heart? How can we turn it around? Here at our friendly world, we always say that friendship is the key to what ails our society. It is the key to social economic and racial conflict. Because when we see  how supported we are, that we are better, stronger together, as we say, we help each other with all aspects of life, we are wealthy, we are not alone and we value each other.

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August 23, 2021

Revolution vs Evolution and the Art of A Coherent Community During Turbulent Times

This episode we focus onRevolution vs Evolution and the Art of A Coherent Community During Turbulent Times and we begin with the etymology of revolution: to turn; to roll back. The definition is really revolt, which originally meant to renounce allegiance, which is really interesting since we're always talking about friendship and community and family; the family that we create, but to renounce allegiance that's revolution. Revolution is also a change in paradigm. Evolution is an opening of what was a rolled up and opening of what was rolled up. We discuss the  cause of fear and division. Fawn gives the example of Santa Monica and how the utopia bubble was getting thin, when things became more (here's the four letter word - "busy"), where people began becoming more and more busy, didn't play as often, didn't have happy hour meals as often and began to get quiet in conversation. The family began to dwindle. The free, wild, uncontrollable laughter  didn't happen as much. Things felt more and more serious and soon began that new normal.   So what's the lesson here and this tiny bit of time in this tiny bit of community is the basis for our conversation today? How does revolution ignite in a peaceful heart? How can we turn it around? Here at our friendly world, we always say that friendship is the key to what ails our society. It is the key to social economic and racial conflict. Because when we see  how supported we are, that we are better, stronger together, as we say, we help each other with all aspects of life, we are wealthy, we are not alone and we value each other.     TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Fawn: [00:00:00] Hello, everyone. Hi, again, I'm so excited I  picked up this book just a little bit ago. Right. And, um, the way I came across this book was really crazy because I was researching something that has nothing to do with anything, but somehow, I mean, whoa, wait a second. Matt: [00:00:21] I would say it's kind of central to Fawn: [00:00:23] everything. Okay. What was happening was I was doing research for something that kind of had something to do with the podcast, but anyway, in a universal roundabout way, I was guided to this book and I got it right away. I'm like, I can't believe that, that title. Okay. I've actually talked about this book on the last episode we totally got into it.  This  person is here today. I will introduce him in just a second, but you know, I like to  give you nuggets of wisdom.  I'm obsessed with etymology of words and everything and trying to figure out how in the heck did this happen.  I looked up revolution and I promised like, [00:01:00] I wouldn't use words like that on this podcast, but here I go. Okay. The etymology of a revolution, I can't even say it it's to turn; to roll back. Now, remember that turn roll back. The definition is really revolt, which originally  meant to renounce allegiance, which is really interesting since we're always talking about friendship and community and family, you know, the family that we create, but to renounce allegiance that's revolution, another meaning is the rotation of a celestial body on its axis motion of any figure about a center or access. Okay. Like a sudden radical. I know it was just getting too wordy, whatever, whatever a sudden radical or a complete change. Also a change in paradigm. And then I'm like, okay, well what about [00:02:00] evolution, revolution, evolution? And  to me , it looks like the same thing to me, evolution and revolution.  Evolution, remember I said revolution. Remember it means turn roll back. It's interesting because

August 15, 2021

The Art of the Plan with Guest Heather Lawrence

Heather Lawrence joins us as we discuss the art of the plan and what it is. What's the plan?  How do you know it's your plan? Is there a higher plan? Is there truly free will?  What is the purpose of each person? How can we decipher between our purpose as apposed to someone else's thing; how do we know it's your deal or if it's feeling FOMO.  Is there, is there a grand scheme? Is there a divine plan? How do we become  a vibrational match to the plan that we have been wanting? Can we plan? Should we be planning? You always hear that phrase. You know, if you want to hear God laugh, make a plan.  Aren't we working as a team here? Heather explains how the universe wants to get us to accept things the way they are not reject the way they are. How can we get through it all???? How to be an authentic match to your dreams. How to be in alignment This episode we ask the questions and ponder the answers. To reach Heather: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_advizer/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theadvizerr/videos/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the_advizer111?lang=en

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August 08, 2021

The Art of Community with Maya Breuer

One of our favorite friends is back! Maya Breuer joins us again as we further explore the art of community. We begin with a quote from the movie, "Your Name":  "They assemble and take shape. They twist, tangle, unravel now and then, break and reconnect. That's what a union is; what time is." We've been really delving into the art of community here and really trying to hone in on exactly what community is and how we can have it, how we can create it, how we can continue with it,  with the changing times and everything. Community is society, it's a fellowship, it's a kind of public spirit and to an embrace, a place of connection, a place where we are not alone, a place of enrichment.  It is a home of safety and protection. It is about being stronger and happier and having the sense of wellbeing. It is about being heard and getting acknowledged and VALUED.  It is about feeling supported, respected, cared for and having this feeling of love for each other. It is about compassion and love.

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August 02, 2021

Dissatisfaction

A rant on dissatisfaction and the desire to really live life! Fawn needs your support on this one.

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July 26, 2021

CONNECTED Roundtable #9 PHYLOTIMO, Love, Friendship, Honor, and Giving to Each Other

This is an episode dedicated to our favorite word: PHYLOTIMO. Philotimo is an all encompassing concept that gives meaning to life that stretches well beyond ourselves, as that deep seated awareness in the heart that motivates the good that a person does. Philotimo  is a sense of duty to your fellow human being. It is about love and friendship. It's about giving and it's about honor. And when you break it down in Greek, Philo means friend timo means honor. We talk about the geography of where Phylotimo was born in history and how that very same spot is paying it forward in modern times. We ask individual questions from our expert friends at the table, like: Of Matt we ask what tech or programs help us to be of service to our fellow human beings? We ask Paul to give us some meditation tools to provide us all with philotimo. We ask Katy how food can help us with phylotimo. Of Beth we ask for visualization tools to bring about this way of honor. I (Fawn) talks about communication and language in relation to phylotimo.  We tie the episode with KJ’s expertise and her wisdom of observation to teach us they ways in which we can encourage phylotimo.

July 18, 2021

Acceptance of Where You Are; Compassion, Community, Consciousness, Yoga Pants, and Being Popeye with Maya Breuer

"There is geometry in the humming of the strings. There is music in the spacing of the spheres." - Pythagoras We are graced by the lovely Maya Breuer,  host of The Unity in Yoga podcast. She is, also the co-founder of the black yoga teachers Alliance, an Emeritus trustee of Kripalu and the creator of the yoga retreat for women of color. Maya is a recipient of the YWCA's Women of Achievement Award. This our beautiful friend, is Maya Breuer. Maya Breuer continues to demonstrate commitment to educating the black and indigenous and people of color community B I P O C about health and wellbeing through yoga. She enthusiastically promotes equity and continues to influence the changing landscape of yoga. We speak of acceptance of you who we are and where we are. And when you get grounded in that acceptance of self, it doesn't matter what anyone says. We get into how we’re reared in the United States to always compare ourselves and each other.

July 12, 2021

CONNECTED - Roundtable #8 BREATH

Do you think it's a bad thing to be so interconnected? We are living in a time where we see, hear, and feel everything we are all (as a collective and individually) feeling and experiencing all at the same time. This experience of “oneness” can be devastating and hard to manage. What can we do?  We turn to a simple cure, one that is thousands of years old – The breath. In this episode, we explore breath and the way it can not only heal the body and the mind, but transform reality and change the outcome of realty as we see it.

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July 05, 2021

Blockchain and the Kingdom of Bling - Dirty Big Secrets Talk with Lisa Calkins

Lisa Calkins of Halfblast Studios joins our blockchain talk, but we get very human with it and talk about such things as fraud and the fact that it doesn't always just happen the way that you think it happens . Lisa explains credit card fraud and fraud in general. Also, why you will never forget your password again…   Why taking a small step toward responsibility of your password management is good for you and good for other people. Lisa gets very real and you will feel empowered. Here are some nuggets from the episode: NUGGET OF WISDOM FROM LISA: -And one of the things that was so exciting to me and, valuable to me about blockchain was that I didn't understand it at all. I had to learn it and the whole team had to learn it. And those early entire year, every day I would learn something. And then the next day I would realize whatever I learned wasn't really right or true.And then I would learn again and then I wouldn't understand it. And then some would ask me a question. I have no idea how to answer it, and I would have to learn it again. And what an exciting time that is, professionally and personally.

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June 28, 2021

Roundtable - CONNECTED- The Concept of Self-Principles and How to Use Them as Tools

Today we have our fantastic, amazing friend, Paul, who is leading this session today on the concept of self-principle as a whole, being an action. It's the actions we take on our thoughts that come up. The conversation further travels to the concept intelligence of multiple intelligence theory and how all these ways of thinking and being transforms us and society. We also talk about school, all kinds of different forms of intelligence, finding other ways, other paths in our lives that don’t go with the status quo but reveal our true selves and our true gifts. Hall of Fame quotes from the episode: the more we practice it, the more it becomes us,    I am not defined by how other people choose to see me. I'm defined by who I am. -Not the perception, not the looking through the lens of someone else's experience.   if everyone likes you, you're doing something wrong.   Winston Churchill - If you find yourself traveling through hell for God's sake, keep going.

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June 21, 2021

Life Lessons - You Hear me? You Feel Me? Do You Smell What I'm Steppin' In? With Lyrics and Lattes

We welcome Jason Wallace and Trevor DeSaussur from the podcast, Lyrics and Lattes. And these guys are so lovely, inspiring, upbeat, positive, and so deep. They gift their listeners with wisdom, so many life lessons; provide perfect self-development though breaking down lyrics of hip hop. https://www.lyricsandlattes.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lyricsandlattes/

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June 14, 2021

Blockchain - Philotimo and Getting Along from Historical Fights to Modern-day Slights Tech Can Empower and Change Human Beings with Mostafa Purmehdi

This episode is on Blockchain, Philotimo and getting along from historical fights to modern day slights: Without thinking of all these cultures and all these different languages, all these different ideas that live right there in that tiny area, they just were crammed in without any kind of regard to a sense of honor, a sense of history. What happens when you centralized a bunch of decentralized platforms? Like every culture is a platform for its own people. And then what happened was that they tried to centralize it and then they divided arbitrarily and the platforms just clashed.   This episode concludes by saying that trying to connect it to what we started talking about;  a language that everybody understands and everybody communicates through the word Esperanto in that language means hope. So the idea was to stay hopeful; that people can come together and understand each other.

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June 04, 2021

The Family We Create - Families of All Kinds - Interview w/ Jenn Cleary and Dorje Dolma

The Family We Create – Families of All Kinds:  this episode is the perfect example of family, the family that we create and showing that it really entails families of all kinds. And interestingly enough, it's also the song title (“Families of All Kinds”) of one of the songs on Jen Cleary's new album “All Together Now!” written and produced for children and families and celebrating environmental and social consciousness (which, by the way, our baby girl did the album cover art of!).

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June 02, 2021

CONNECTED – Roundtable # 6 – “Currency and Our Value of Life”

We have been taught to think that when something is scarce, then the value goes up, but should it? Because I'm looking at human beings and I'm thinking about the 99% not being valued. And the 1% that are valued, the 1% that have the majority of the currency, the majority of the money in our society, how come they are in that state and how come the 99% are so undervalued?! But if you really think about it, we are more valuable than the 1%. And I think that we're not treated as valuable because we are so disconnected from one another. That's my personal theory that if we were truly to connect with one another energetically and physically, that if we shared our  ideas and we helped each other out,  the 1% would have no power. Does that make any sense to anybody?  And then I'm thinking about money and the value of a person. And what is money? Is it a tool?  Of course it is. But is it a tool for manipulation? Has some piece of paper, coin, or ethereal coin crossed the line over to manipulation and how we make money?  How does that all work? Is it done with integrity or greed or desperation? How does self-esteem play a factor? I would like to use the Socratic method by asking questions for us to get somewhere in our conversations where we can figure things out. I really believe we can figure out a way. Socrates often asked questions that went against the traditions and reflections of Athens. And so we may ask, I may ask certain questions, but I mean, no disrespect. I'm trying to understand things and I'm trying to understand a way for us all to come together again. This roundtable takes us through politics, the economy, self-worth, ethics and a bit of history as we ask questions and define some important terms in order to create change.

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June 01, 2021

Blockchain - How Tech Can Empower and Change Human Beings with Mostafa Purmehdi - Social Responsibility continues

Tech #4 We continue with social responsibility and how the omelette caused discourse in the neighborhood and changes business. We talk about Toyota and emotions being a driving factor in purchasing power. Mostafa: That reminds us that business is something that transcends beyond just exchange of products in return for money or some value. It is multidimensional. And it's a long-term relationship that  the business needs to create with the customers. And the more we are advancing through , time,  the more businesses are realizing this. Fawn brings up the issue of access – access to internet/cable/health protecting refugee identity rights.   Monero is the Esperanto word for money.  Esperanto, if you are into that kind of thing is a language that was designed to bring Liberty and freedom to the world in the 18 hundreds, 19 hundreds.   The companies who are not acting responsibly they're usually taking advantage of the loopholes for example Apple, Amazon, and all these companies that are not paying their federal taxes. Either, they're using tax havens or they're putting their financial operations in different countries and other countries they're doing this because there is a loophole that allows them to do so.   happy apple vegan on Instagram. This was her question from the first show we did she, she goes Mostafa and Matt is crypto going to be the death of paper currency? Crypto currency and homeless population Did you know that gold was outlawed in the 1930s in the United States?

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May 30, 2021

The Yard Stick – How we measure up and what is the measure of a human?

Hall of fame quote from this episode - Matt: Everybody has like one yard stick and that's a big problem because it allows us to measure everyone against this one yard stick. Fawn talks about Ancient Greece, Sparta, and the similarities to the government style of rule in the United States, in a way, asking if we are treated as the same way these ancient governments treated people in their society. How can we have equilibrium? How does currency and war factor in the society? What is the price for a country like the United States (a country that has always been at war of some kind)? What kind of society has that created? What kind of feelings is now embedded within our bodies and our spirit from the generational violence that we don’t fully understand we take part in (that we have been part of)? We also talk about how we measure time. Why is it that time seems to stand still sometimes? Why do we settle for situations that are not life affirming? Can you distinguish between your true desire, and desiring something out of envy? Why does it seem like we always want more? Fawn has an answer. When can we throw out and get rid of the yard stick? Matt has the answer.

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May 26, 2021

CONNECTED – Roundtable #5 – The Art of Creativity and Compassion

What are the guiding emotions of our society are right now? What did we do when we had no parameters of time when we were children; when there were no instructions other than to go and do? Who is the real you? What does it mean to feel like YOU? When did you feel most like YOU? What are some examples of “Happy Places”? What are the words, sounds, colors, scents, movements associated with your place of honor and happiness? What is the true definition of art? What are some ways to express what is in our realm of life and can we get key insights that are right before our eyes that we may have been oblivious to? This roundtable comes from a gathering session (one of KJ’s wonderful online courses) led by our brilliant KJ Nasrul where she guided us through our emotions using art. What transpired was this roundtable discussing in depth the art of creativity and compassion. KJ provides guidance and support for this very healing episode.

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May 25, 2021

Blockchain - How Tech Can Empower and Change Human Beings -#3 Social Responsibility

Blockchain #3  - Social Responsibility.  Our series on Blockchain and how it will empower people, with Prodessor Mostafa Purmehdi continues. This episode defines social responsibility and talks about how companies and countries have behaved (the good, the bad, and the really horrifying like King Leopold II of Belgium). From Greenwashing to individual responsibility, to how beneficial it is to depend on entities like humanitarian and ecological groups to keep companies honest and if that even makes a difference. How can we start now to have true social responsibility? We discuss ways in which blockchain is the key to ending human and enironmental suffering and injustice.

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May 23, 2021

Hope

We're waiting on something. Faith and hope are complimentary.  Faith is the substance of things hoped for. Faith is grounded in the reality of the past. Hope is looking to the reality of the future. While everybody is really trying to live their best lives, you can't, you don't always, you can try, you can strive. But the world has a nasty habit of giving you the yin and the yang, the good and the bad, the male and the female in equal portions in your life. Sometimes you're up, sometimes you're down We also talk about being vulnerable and how that is seen as weakness.  Why does the US have so much violence and killing? Why don't we stop it? How does culture affect our health and the aging process?   If we come together, we can create something that we thought was impossible. We can create a society that is peaceful.    Matt says there's a number of different switches we need to flip as an entire society. Uh, I think one of the switches we need to flip this, this concept of scarcity that I can't have something because somebody else already has it, or because, or thinking that there's such a limited pool of resources that I have to somehow or another, get it from someone else. I have to steal it. I have to grab an opportunity away from someone. So this is a whole kind of thought of scarcity. And I think we also need to stay very conscious of understanding exactly what success is. Success is not a $50 million home with 10 exotic cars and et cetera, et cetera, and children in Harvard, you know, I think that that's certainly a measure, but it's not the only measure of what success really looks like. Can we feel rich without the big mansion? Can we feel rich without the stuff? Remember that pain loss longing that you go through has a beginning, a middle and an end, and you should respect all three, especially, hopefully the end, if it's something bad.

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May 19, 2021

CONNECTED – Roundtable #4 , The Reemergence

This roundtable is about the physiological feat that’s necessary for survival; hibernation, and the various forms we go within and “slumber” to regain not only life, but understanding. And then we discuss the ways in which we reemerge and blossom. How do we come out of our slumber spiritually, emotionally and physically after the time we have just lived through? We share all the different ways in nature we go within (from all the different periods of time animals hibernate, to being an introvert, a society going through dark times, to living inside of a pandemic) and all the different ways we can reemerge and come out better and more powerful. We talk about the meaning of renaissance (rebirth from Latin) and how throughout history we have come out of the darkness, and reemerged with art and imagination and created societies with greater knowledge of spirituality, ingenuity, creativity, ambition, scholarly feats, and awakening to a beautiful world. We are entering a new world that we are building together. This roundtable is about the physiological feat that’s necessary for survival; hibernation, and the various forms we go within and “slumber” to regain not only life, but understanding. And then we discuss the ways in which we reemerge and blossom. How do we come out of our slumber spiritually, emotionally and physically after the time we have just lived through? We share all the different ways in nature we go within (from all the different periods of time animals hibernate, to being an introvert, a society going through dark times, to living inside of a pandemic) and all the different ways we can reemerge and come out better and more powerful. We talk about the meaning of renaissance (rebirth from Latin) and how throughout history we have come out of the darkness, and reemerged with art and imagination and created societies with greater knowledge of spirituality, ingenuity, creativity, ambition, scholarly feats, and awakening to a beautiful world.

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