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When we think of integrity, we think of the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles, blah, blah, blah. But it also tends to go towards the division; “I have integrity. You don't, I believe in such and such, and you don't. Therefore you don't have integrity.”This week we look at the deeper meaning of integrity and how the art of friendship plays a role in shaping our society. The other meaning, the etymology of integrity is a state of being whole, undivided, a state of being whole and undivided, the condition of being unified, unimpaired. The The adjective form of integrity is integer, integral, complete, perfect, intact, untouched.We ask who benefits from a divided community and who benefits from this kind of thing. Let's look at how we can be whole and undivided as people.Thoughts? Click the microphone icon on https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ and leave us a kind voice message. Please tell everyone you can about our efforts in bringing back the art of frie…

Within you, there is a stillness and sanctuary to which you can retreat at any time and be yourself. - Herman Hess Even in stillness, there is movement. Sometimes it takes time for the molecules of change to shift form. Even when it feels like nothing is happening, transformation is taking place. -Anonymous To the mind that is still, the whole universe surrenders. - LAO TZU There is an art of being still that totally lets the person know you are here with them, you are present, you're loving them, you're embracing them without physically touching them. There's an art to that, and it's quite simple. You just have to be still hold your own and look at the person and see them and listen to them, and I think people are so afraid of what happens to the in-between that they'll just keep running; running their mouths or running away one thing after another. It runs the gamut. And there are points in time where it's good to be still and there are points in time where it isn't. And that's jus…

You are the 100% owner of your life i.e.: your time. This is your time. Spend it, invest it, bend it, enjoy it how you wish, with whom you wish. I'm purposely using the word invest because people are so freaked out about wasting time and I think that it's wrong. I think we should through caution to the wind and waste some time. Let's be so stupid rich with time that we can waste some time. And what does it mean to waste time? This week we discuss the guilt that we feel when we're not being “PRODUCTIVE”. What does productive really mean, and who made up the definition of what “productive” is in life? You can go anywhere you choose, you can reroute your whole life. Think about your time. It's your life and as long as you are breathing, you have the currency. How generous are we with our lives? Being fully present is a big deal. Devoting ourselves, i.e., our time to one another, our attention, and being in a state of stillness can create a moment where you feel more powerful. And in that…

Let's shift towards authenticity, meaningful connections, self-expression, and finding joy in both personal and professional aspects of life!Please tell everyone you can about our efforts in bringing back the art of friendship and transforming our society for the better. Click the subscribe button on our website:https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/AND...Have a BEAUTIFUL EVERY DAY! And if you are able, please donate by buying us a cup of coffee at https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace

Did you know that people who consider themselves lucky are more likely to be extroverted? As we look to emphasize personal growth and empowerment while also touching on themes of luck and manifestation, we explore how we can look at luck in our lives and explore ways to attract positive outcomes.How can we unlock good fortune? How can a positive or in some cases a neutral mindset and social connections impact luck? Fawn and Matt explore how a positive attitude, new connections, and genuine smiles shape success.Please tell everyone you can about our efforts in bringing back the art of friendship and transforming our society for the better. Click the subscribe button on our website:https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/AND...Have a BEAUTIFUL EVERY DAY! And if you are able, please donate by buying us a cup of coffee at https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace

As we start thinking about friends, teams, and teammates we should strive for a team/community/friendships that espouse the whole concept of a rising tide lifts all ships. A rising tide lifts all ships. We look at the kinds of people that we should surround ourselves with and look at 5 kinds of people in particular. Please tell everyone you can about our efforts in bringing back the art of friendship and transforming our society for the better. Click the subscribe button on our website:https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/AND...Have a BEAUTIFUL EVERY DAY! And if you are able, please donate by buying us a cup of coffee at https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace

This is a time when it's extra important to stay optimistic and filled with faith.Enjoy and appreciate the small successes and recognize that they add up to the big ones. So the successes add up to the big ones. The more you stay centered in gratitude, the more positive opportunities will come your way. But most importantly, this is a time when it's extra important to stay optimistic.Barry Lane joins us and teaches us how not to stress out about money and talks about living for the soul's benefit while living large. He tells us about a philosopher called Émile Durkheim, how capitalism atomizes people, how people can be little atoms that can't connect with each other, how they're separated by their own little pursuits for their own private lives and nests they try to build and competing against all the other nests and how this makes people suicidal. All this stems from a lack of community.Barry gives us tools to thrive through all of this and teaches us how to create community with t…

Have you ever found that you thought you were just kind of bebopping through and just doing your own thing, and then all of a sudden you discover that one of the frameworks that you have, even for communication, you're totally stealing from somewhere else?If you really think about it, how is a conversation, not improv? How is hanging out with your friends not dissimilar from an improv show? In this episode, we go through the rules that exist in improv and relate them specifically to having good friendships. We also discuss the seven deadly sins of improv and what not to do inside our friendships.Please tell everyone you can about our efforts in bringing back the art of friendship and transforming our society for the better. Click the subscribe button on our website:https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/AND...Have a BEAUTIFUL EVERY DAY! And if you are able, please donate by buying us a cup of coffee at https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace

This episode takes us on the journey of discovering why we don't talk about certain things, why we don't talk, period, why we don't expose what we're going through, and why we don't share what we've been through. How did we reach this point in our culture that there is no village, that there is not a space where we can hold one another and hear each other's stories?Please tell everyone you can about our efforts in bringing back the art of friendship and transforming our society for the better. Click the subscribe button on our website:https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/AND...Have a BEAUTIFUL EVERY DAY! And if you are able, please donate by buying us a cup of coffee at https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace

The word and the topic of this week's episode are desiderata, a plural noun with a singular form. Desideratum means things wanted or needed.Desiderata is a famous poem written by an American poet, and lawyer Max Ehrmann in 1927.There's such an immediacy to this poem even though it was written back in the 1920s. Even though it was written hundred years ago, it still feels fresh and it is what we all need to hear RIGHT NOW.Please tell everyone you can about our efforts in bringing back the art of friendship and transforming our society for the better. Click the subscribe button on our website:https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/AND...Have a BEAUTIFUL EVERY DAY! And if you are able, please donate (what you can) by buying us a cup of coffee at https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace

Don't take the bait. What bait is and how to handle bait is our topic for this week. Fawn shares advice from her wonderful friend Kathy and finds more information along the same subject from an article written by Lauren Sanders “ Don't Take the Bait. Seven Strategies for Dealing With Toxic People.”Please tell everyone you can about our efforts in bringing back the art of friendship and transforming our society for the better. Click the subscribe button on our website:https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/AND...Have a BEAUTIFUL EVERY DAY!

Truth is relative and it's based on our experience. The story we tell ourselves is based on what is happening. We all have a history. We have our family of origins, there's the family interjects, what we learn from those around us, including society, etc. Dr. Cathia Walters walks us through schemas (the way we frame the world based on core beliefs) and how to shift our narrative. This is how life feels better and our relationships improve.

For today's topic, we wanted to pass along something to you that was passed onto us; something wise from the mentor, the original mentor of friendship, Santa Monica. We have found that one of those humongous things that hurt people is that at some point they forget how to play. And you know what? Playing is creativity. It's experimentation, it's screwing up, it's finding something awesome in the middle of chaos. It's a brave thing to do (to play) also because you're using your imagination. You're laughing in the face of fear. You're laughing in the face of some major constraints in front of you and you're basically saying, haha, I'm going to defy gravity. But that also gets us back to the whole topic today: worrying. This topic is twofold. One is worrying, but one is also what we do for each other as friends. We get into the etymology of worry (you will not believe the original meaning of this word!!!!). Our point is that together, one by one, create what we do want, create a sense…

When we're talking or when we're not talking, why do we yell at each other? What is the point of yelling? What does it really mean when we resort to yelling? Why do we yell when we're upset and what is really behind it all? This is what we explore this week as well as the art of the empty jacket.#Aikido, #JudoPick up a free copy of Fawn's workbook on making friendshttps://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/CALL TO ACTION: SHARE OUR PODCAST WITH OTHERS DISCLAIMER: This Podcast and all related content [published or distributed by or on behalf of Fawn Anderson and Matthew Anderson or Ourfriendlyworld.com] is for informational purposes only and may include information that is general in nature and that is not specific to you. Any information or opinions expressed or contained herein are not intended to serve as or replace medical advice, nor to diagnose, prescribe or treat any disease, condition, illness or injury, and you should consult the health care professional of your choice regard…

Dr. Walters is back to teach us about Radical Acceptance - how does it play into our life choices, finances, career, and relationships?  We discuss how to separate our thoughts from our feelings, how to cultivate self-worth, how to deal with rejection, and soooooooo much more!Socials and Web for Walters Wellness Group / Dr. Cathia Walters:https://www.instagram.com/walterswellnessgroup_/https://www.facebook.com/WaltersWellnessGrouphttps://www.linkedin.comDr. Cathia Walters (Dr. C) is an educator, psychologist, relationship coach, and the founder of the Walters Wellness Group in California's San Francisco Bay area. Through the Walters Wellness Group, Dr. C provides support groups,  courses (online and in-person), workshops and community events on a variety of healing-related topics. Her courses like Managing Life Challenges course, Black Women's Support Group, and Healing Trauma program have served hundreds of individuals in healing and personal growth. Dr. C's work focus…

The simple things are the most profound - things that go unnoticed. To notice the spectacular takes a special eye, a special awareness, a special sense of wisdom and appreciation. Someone who has the ability to spot something that's a diamond that may not be polished at Tiffany's who says Wow! Look at that spectacular jewel. Let's be the people who can see the extraordinary in the ordinary. And that goes in finding friendships. Thank you to the people who are so wildly perceptive that they can recognize in you the magic that you are. That we are. Thank you. You are the best friends.And thank you to all the people who we come across who remind us of this stuff.#HankWessel, #GeorgiaO'Keefe, #F.ScottFitzgerald, #TaoTeChingOfFriendship, ParentsTaoTeChing, #TheMarvelousMrsMaisel, #signsthathelpusPick up a free copy of Fawn's workbook on making friendshttps://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/CALL TO ACTION: SHARE OUR PODCAST WITH OTHERS

There are messages everywhere you guys! It's funny how messages will come to you. They come in the wildest ways and they come just right when you need them. So the message today is, don't worry, it's going to be okay. It will all work out okay. This week, we get the message from a few sources and one of them is from our friends in Iceland. No matter how big the problem, no matter how big the problem a solution, a solution will always present itself. It will fix itself.Pick up a free copy of Fawn's workbook on making friendshttps://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/CALL TO ACTION: SHARE OUR PODCAST WITH OTHERS#BobbyMcFaren, #Yo-YoMa, #MichaelSandlerInspireNation, #Iceland, #Icelandicphrase

Step-by-step guide on how to argue well in a friendship, to keep the friendship alive - and also how the turning point comes to be a deal breaker and ends the friendship.Thank you to our BEAUTIFUL and TALENTED friend, Michelle Sillence (an awesome Voice Actor) who brought up this very important topic.Pick up a free copy of Fawn's workbook on making friendshttps://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/CALL TO ACTION: PLEASE SHARE OUR PODCAST WITH OTHERS #HowToKnowIfAFriendshipIsHopeless, #respect, #Apologia.

If I can reiterate the whole reason why we're here, it is to prove, to show, that we are not alone. You are not alone. Sometimes life is an absurdity, that's when you cross over into the realm of absurdity, and all you can do is just laugh at it and that's it. Sometimes everything can suck, BUT it won't always suck. YOU CAN MOVE THROUGH IT! The “sucky” times wil not last!Things will get better.Pick up a free copy of Fawn's workbook on making friendshttps://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/CALL TO ACTION: PLEASE SHARE OUR PODCAST WITH OTHERS

Today we welcome our most honored guest, Dr. Cathia Walters who shows us how we see ourselves, how we see others, how we see the world, what makes something traumatic, how to have self-compassion, how trauma shows up in our lives, how trauma shows up in society, and how to navigate through it all.What is trauma anyway? How can our various traumas be breaking or making our relationships with ourselves, with the people in our lives, and with the world around us? You will love your new friend, Dr. C, and will feel the beauty and calm of her teachings. We love this episode.#TraumaticExperiences, #SelfCompassion, #Acceptance #compassion, #PaulGilbert, #BigT, #LittleT, #TheArtOfSelfLove, #triad, #RelationshipsBeginWithYouhttps://www.instagram.com/walterswellnessgroup_/https://www.facebook.com/WaltersWellnessGrouphttps://www.linkedin.comDr. Cathia Walters (Dr. C) is an educator, psychologist, relationship coach, and the founder of the Walters Wellness Group…

As life happens, everybody fights, everybody argues everybody has a bad day. It's like people don't allow each other to flex and expand and contract. Oftentimes we get so focused and like we draw so much strength from things we've done in the past that have made sense for us that we can't conceive of a world where that doesn't make sense anymore.When you have misunderstandings, people misunderstand and they think it's the end of the friendship or the end of the relationship, but in reality, there's so much to unpack because everybody is experiencing their own life, their own interpretation of things, their own stresses, and everybody looks circumstances through the lens of their own past experiences. It's like you're not allowed to have three dimensions. You're only allowed to have two. And then some cases, one dimension. You have to be flexible. You have to go with the flow. It's the only way to thrive. Neither one of us can say anything with certainty's. That's the fun part. That'…

We may not know every single one of you listening, but you matter to us. You matter. You are of great value. You're amazing. This episode is about believing that things can get better, that I can get better, that we will get better... to believe in yourself, to believe in one another... (quote from Ted Lasso. You matter regardless of what you do, what you achieve, what you don't do, what you don't achieve. It doesn't matter. When you are centered, even if you weigh 80 pounds, no one can throw you. Sometimes there seems to be a lot of people who want to throw you; spiritually, physically and metaphorically. The worst is when YOU throw you, and even worst is when you help them throw you. We talk about creating your best life. It's important to feel joy. It's nice to have someone take a look at and remind you of who you are, have friends to remind you of who you are, that you're not maybe seeing fully in that moment for someone to remind you, and that's the beauty of friendship. Don't b…

What do you do when your friends break up with one another? Is this a sunset or sunrise? Is it the end or the beginning of a new path? We give advice based on our personal experiences. We also discuss what to do and how to navigate a group dynamic. When you add new friends into a friend group, it changes the dynamics. Sometimes when you really need someone and the attention from that person is no longer there (it could just even be temporarily, but you need it right at that moment), it is a terrible feeling. People have a habit of not doing the same things over and over again. So just because it was okay at moment A to say something very hurtful to somebody doesn't mean it's okay in moment B or C or D. People believe by and large that they are moral, kind and a million other really positive words. And it's hard on people when they get a mirror shown up to them to show them exactly how they're not kind, how they're not giving, how they're not good friends. When friends break up, it's t…

This is for anyone who's ever felt less than. It's not you. You are not less than.We should concentrate on taking care of our space and realizing in what ways we are showing our true selves; the good, the bad, and the ugly, all of it, and being conscious of it all. And I think that's a great step to realizing how we're showing up for friendship, how we're showing up in the world, how we are creating our worldsWe're not alone guys. and remember what I told you about the shame. I think that's when people who treat you as less than, succeed when you start feeling shame. They are exposing themselves. Do not allow shame to take over you. You are valuable. You are of great value. You're amazing and beautiful, and you're a friend of ours. This episode is about allowing and letting people expose their true selves. These are the people who think you don't count. When people don't count you as a real human being, people who discard you, your presence, your culture, and/or your appearance, as …